Growing up, I had a pretty solid group of girlfriends. There were four of us, for the most part, that spent every single weekend together. From 6th grade on, that group didn’t change much. However our freshmen year of high school I got a serious boyfriend (my now husband, as you know from the comparison post) and in my mind that took precedence over everything.
My friendships with that group of friends didn’t’ really change because of it, we still hung out more often than not. But maintaining it and putting in the effort to carry them past high school was not of importance to me.
I also have a very clear memory from that same time period, in my room with one of my cousins. She asked who someone was in a picture and I must have said something along the lines of “we aren’t friends anymore” because she told me “friends are overrated”. That kind of stuck with me.
So it’s safe to say that I have never put much importance on having strong relationships with other girls. I’ve had a lot of fast friends over the years. You know, the ones that come and go, but aren’t really there for the long haul. There were a couple of times I thought I was building a true friendship, but in the end it wasn’t what I thought it was. I’ve been betrayed by friends and I’ve betrayed friends. It’s a back and forth story of basically not building something worthwhile.
Over the past year I’ve thought a lot about this. My lack of trying to build true and meaningful friendships. Not putting in the work necessary to build a solid group of girlfriends. As I get older though I am finally starting to see the importance of it all. I truly no longer believe that friends are overrated in any way shape or form.
Having a solid group of girlfriends is necessary for so many reasons. As I work to really maintain the friendships I currently have and build new ones, I thought I would share why I now think girlfriends are an essential part of life…
The Importance of Girlfriends
– The Support –
Girlfriends can be undeniably supportive. A good support system is something we all need in life. Girlfriends have a better understanding of our struggles. They can be there for us on an emotional level that we can’t always get from the men in our lives. Plus, is there anything better than knowing you have someone that you can count on and who is there for you no matter what?
– They’ll Tell You How It Is –
We all need at least one person in our lives to give it to us straight. Whether it’s about a major life commitment or something as simple as a bad outfit, girlfriends are usually the ones to help us out. Being able to be completely honest someone without the fear of hurting their feelings is refreshing. And when you find that in a friendship it’s even better.
– Someone To Drink a
G lass Bottle of Wine With –
Because let’s be real, is there anything better than a bottle of wine shared between friends? I.Think.Not. Girls nights are the best nights.
– Someone to Share Life With –
This goes right along with the other three. Having girlfriends to go through life’s biggest moments is important. You do need that support, you do need them to tell you the truth and you will need to share a bottle (or lots of bottles) of wine with them to make it through.
Girlfriends can be hard to come by, especially as we get older (trust me!). However I am now very much aware of the importance of putting in the effort to find them and to hold on to them. I use to brush it off when women would say how important their girlfriends were to them, but I get it now and man, am I ever happy about that.