Not knowing what I wanted to do was something I always struggled with. The only career I remember wanting as a child was to be a dolphin trainer. Other than that though, I don’t ever remember putting much thought into it. Going into college, I, again, didn’t have much direction. And because of my lack of direction I ended up majoring in communications. By the time I finished college, I already had a job. It was a good job, with great bosses and potential to grow. However, I quickly knew it wasn’t something I wanted to do forever.
The amount of stress I’ve carried trying to figure out what I want to do with my life, career wise, is ridiculous. I’ve spent many hours trying to figure it out.
One morning, I was listening to a podcast where they were interviewing a career coach. My excitement went through the roof. This wasn’t a career coach in the sense that she was going to help me move forward in my career. Rather someone who would help me to determine what I wanted to do and how I could get it started. I thought to myself “that is exactly what I need”. After reaching out, I was working with a career coach within a month.
I will admit I went into this with the idea that it was going to be a cure all. That by the time I was done with my sessions, I would know exactly what I wanted to do and be well on my way to my dream career. That was not exactly how it panned out. However, looking back, I definitely did learn from the experience. Not only things about myself that I didn’t necessarily realize before, but I did also figure out what I wanted my career to be.
3 Things I Learned From Working With a Career Coach
I’m Not Good With Personal Deadlines
This lesson is more on a personal, self-development level, but it really opened my eyes. It made me realize why some things weren’t turning out or weren’t where I wanted them to be at that point in my life.
The coach actually pointed this out to me pretty early on in our sessions. If someone else needs me to get something done, I have no issue with it. I’ll get it done and I’ll definitely get it done on time. Must be the people pleaser in me. However, if I’m putting something on myself or giving myself a deadline, I don’t pursue it with the same determination. I’m quick to brush it off and get to it when I feel like it.
Learning this has really helped to motivate myself. I feel more determined and driven to focus on the things I need to get done in order to become successful.
Visualize Your Future
This was a major game changer for me. I’ve talked about my love for mediation, but when I was working with a career coach she would have me close my eyes for 5 minute and really visualize my future self.
I have spent many meditation sessions since fully visualizing myself in my dream career. When I take the time to do this, I will visualize what I’m wearing on any given day, what the door looks like as I’m entering the office I work out of, how many people are in that office, meetings I have to attend, what my desk looks like, I even talk through phone interviews I have. Literally just every little detail to make it as real as possible.
That may sound kind of weird, but I swear it gave me the confidence to proceed in what I believe to be my future. It gives me the confidence to be proud because I know I’m working towards something. And it makes me really, really, really excited for my future.
I Realized What I Really Wanted To Do
While working with a career coach, we explored several career ideas. She had me make a list of things I enjoyed doing and ways I thought I could make money from them. While we ended up focusing on something I wasn’t too thrilled about, the process made me realize what I really did want to do. It also made me realize, I ALWAYS knew what I wanted to do.
It was such a relief just admitting to myself that this is what I want. I’m someone who likes to talk through things, so maybe that was what this provided me. I don’t even remember if I had put what I truly wanted to do on the list of possible careers. However as we came to the end of our sessions, it became incredibly clear to me that I knew exactly what I wanted to do.