Taking myself on dates is something that I’ve been doing since I became an adult. After spending a majority of the week talking to people, meeting with people and nurturing relationships, I found that I needed a break. I needed to have some alone time but didn’t want to just sit at home. Instead I would go do things that I found to be relaxing and therapeutic.
Feeling secure enough and content with being alone is something I’ve always prided myself on. Going to do things by myself (that some might want to do with another person) has given me a different sort of confidence that I love. I don’t need to have someone else with me to have fun. One of my biggest pet peeves is missing out on life or things you want to do because you are waiting for someone else. Go do it!!
Here are the 5 Dates to Take Yourself On:
1.) Go to the Movies
I LOVE going to the movies by myself. A lot of friends and family thought it was bizarre that I would go to the movie by myself. But why not?! In the movie theater, you just sit in the dark, next to someone and can’t talk. Why would you not go by yourself? I prefer going to the movies by myself because I can go when I want, see what I want, sit where I want and eat what I want. Finding someone to go with to the movie is hard sometimes because not everyone likes the same movies that you do. I love to go to a matinee movie anytime during the week when I have time. The main reason is it is rarely busy plus the tickets are a couple dollars cheaper too!
Grabbing a cup of coffee and sitting in a coffee shop to either a.) work or b.) people watch is always fun to me. When I work from a coffee shop, I rarely get anything done. It is more for the energy and people watching because I get bored working from home and need a little stimulation. Find that vibrant coffee shop, take a book, magazine or your laptop and go hangout by yourself. There will be lots of other loners in the coffee shops too so if you are a newbie to dating yourself, this will be a great start.
I have no shame in going out to eat alone. I will go to any restaurant alone but one style of restaurant I feel the most comfortable eating alone at is a sushi restaurant. Most sushi restaurants have a sushi bar you can sit at and watch them roll sushi; this is where you’ll find me. Eating alone at a restaurant during dinner service has been my biggest test yet. It can sometimes feel awkward when everyone around you is with someone or a big group of people. If you don’t feel comfortable with going to dinner by yourself, go to lunch instead. Tip: there are so many great plant-based sushi rolls!
4.) The Beach
My favorite, favorite summer activity. I’ve been to the beach more times (times 2) by myself than with other people in my adult life. Most of the time people cannot go the same time that I want to go. I like to go during the week when the beach isn’t as busy. I have always refused to not experience something or go do something because other people cannot come with me. If I waited around for someone to go to the beach with me, I would have went 1 time this whole year. No thanks! Pack your beach bag, jump in your car and go! Listening to the waves, reading a book and just being silent is so therapeutic.
5.) Visit a City
This is one that drives Matt nuts! He gets worried but I love it! I feel so much more comfortable wandering around a big city or busy destination more so than I do in the small town I live in. When Matt travels for work, I will sometimes go with him and spend the whole day wandering around the city. Or I have gone on a trip a few days before Matt so I could just be myself, read and lay by the pool. Sight-seeing, walking through a museum, eating at good restaurants and shopping! I’ve even been to Disney World by myself. There is just something about walking around a city, exploring that is so freeing. Try it! But be safe about it.
I challenge you to take yourself on 1 of these dates in the next 2 weeks!