When we started The Middle Edit, we really wanted to create a space where women could share their stories. Where women could relate to each other and feel like they weren’t alone in whatever they were going through. So a post like this, about what it’s like dating in your 30s, where neither of us have the expertise to speak on, has us excited!
We both share a lot about our relationships, but we are in no place to give advice when it comes to dating. So we asked a few of our friends who are currently dating in their 30s to share their stories. These 3 women are sharing what their experience has been like. What they think is the hardest part about dating in your 30s. And how it is a very different experience than dating in your 20s.
3 Women on What Dating In Your 30s is Like
Dating in your 30’s is hard. I’ve tried dating apps, meeting guys out at bars but I’m convinced no guys actually want to “date”. The dating apps that I’ve tried were not for me. Some guys I met on there were nice until they sent pictures of their penis or asked me to send full body (with clothes & some without) pictures over and over again. Another guy I met online, I actually arranged to meet in person. Lets just say he didn’t look like his picture. I knew immediately I wasn’t attracted to him but he hounded me for a few days after until I ended up blocking him.
When I was in my early to mid 20’s dating was not something I was concerned about. I figured I would meet “the one” when the time was right. I was just concerned about having fun. Then my late 20’s hit and F$&@&!$ck! That’s when I realized that I needed to get a little more serious. If only I hadn’t taken my sweet time, maybe I wouldn’t have to resort to online dating – because how the hell do you meet people at my age these days?
I’ve learned that you have to trust your gut.
Hannah – 35
The biggest difference between dating in my 20’s vs. dating in my 30’s is: me. I am able to approach my relationship as my authentic self much more than I ever was able to in my 20’s.
In my 20s I was selfish in pursuing my career and passions to the fullest. I wanted to eliminate all my ‘what if’s.’ ‘What if I would have moved?’’What if I would have auditioned?’ Etc. And I am so grateful for doing so.
I also took the time to really know me. Understanding my needs and wants. So that I could ultimately be a better partner.
Now that I’ve accomplished the things I wanted to do and truly know myself, I’m excited to be dating and giving to a man in the way I know he deserves.